Vivek Shraya

I’m Afraid of Men

Hardcover • 96 pages • Coming Fall 2018 from Penguin Canada

A purple book cover with bold orange text, "I'm Afraid of Men", and the author's name in black script, "Vivek Shraya".

I’m Afraid of Men, the new book from Vivek Shraya, explores how masculinity was imposed on her as a boy and continues to haunt her as a girl—and how we might reimagine gender for the twenty-first century. Coming Fall 2018 from Penguin Canada.

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Emotional and painful but also layered with humour, I’m Afraid of Men will widen your lens on gender and challenge you to do better. This challenge is a necessary one—one we must all take up. It is a gift to dive into Vivek’s heart and mind.

— Rupi Kaur, bestselling author of The Sun and Her Flowers and Milk and Honey

Vivek Shraya’s writing is always empathetic but challenging, kind but sharp, and I’m Afraid of Men forces you to confront what you think you know about masculinity, privilege, and fear. Reading Shraya’s writing will make you a better person, through and through.

— Scaachi Koul, author of One Day We’ll All Be Deadand None of This Will Matter

All of us should read this.

— ELLE Canada

In I’m Afraid of Men, Vivek Shraya owns and exposes her own history with masculinity and offers a way out of this harmful and old-fashioned binary we call gender. My head nodded along quietly in agreement any time I wasn’t wiping away rising tides of tears. Vivek Shraya is a superior voice, and this book is essential reading for everyone.

— Tegan Quin (of Tegan and Sara)

She writes with honesty and vulnerability, all the while asking challenging and personal questions that inspire deeper reflection. This crucial addition to shelves offers the vital and often ignored perspective of a trans woman of color. A book to carry with you.

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This teacher’s guide was created by Robin Phillips as an adaptable resource to support students and teachers as they explore and engage with I’m Afraid of Men.